In today’s world, many men are quick to ask women what they bring to the table in relationships. However, author Henry Onyema believes men need to start asking themselves the same question. Onyema, addressing men who struggle with sexual self-control, challenged this mindset, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection.

In a recent Facebook post, Onyema criticized some men who lack self-discipline and equate manhood with their physical attributes rather than their behavior. He questioned the idea that being a man is simply about having a penis, especially when some men engage in reckless behavior, seeking out multiple women without control.

Onyema’s message is clear: it’s time for men to evaluate their own worth in relationships. He encourages them to stop focusing on what women can offer and instead reflect on their own actions and values. The question men should be asking themselves is, “What do I bring to the table?”

His challenge to men is a reminder that being a man goes beyond physical traits. It’s about self-control, discipline, and adding real value to a relationship. Onyema leaves men with a thought-provoking question: who would want to have you in their life if you can’t manage yourself?