A Nigerian clergywoman has shared a strong message directed at firstborn daughters, especially those who are constantly pressured by their families to carry financial responsibilities they cannot afford. She said many parents are unknowingly pushing their daughters into destructive lifestyles by asking too much from them, especially when they are struggling themselves.

In her sermon, she explained that siblings are not the responsibility of the first daughter. She encouraged women to only help their families if they truly have the means. If they don’t, she advised them to stay calm and not feel guilty. According to her, it’s unfair for a family that gave birth to many children to now expect one person to take care of all the rest. She asked, “From what salary? How can you train six siblings alone?”

She made it clear that this kind of pressure can lead young women to desperate choices, including prostitution, just to meet family expectations. She urged parents to stop forcing this kind of burden on their children and called out the harmful mindset behind it.

The clergywoman also blamed some fathers for not playing their roles. She said some fathers are lazy and careless about their children’s future, but quick to push their daughters into marriage with any man who has money. According to her, many of these decisions are not made out of love, but out of selfishness and failure to provide.

She pointed out that some women are trapped in painful marriages but are told by their mothers to endure because the man provides financial support to the family. She said it’s heartbreaking to hear women cry to their mothers for help and be told to stay in suffering just because money is involved. Some parents call such abusive husbands “my in-law” while ignoring the pain their daughters are going through.

The clergywoman’s message is clear: daughters should not destroy themselves just to meet unrealistic family demands. If they cannot afford to help, they should not feel ashamed or guilty. Being the firstborn doesn’t mean carrying everyone’s load. Everyone must take responsibility for their own life.