Nigerian pastor, Reverend Jide Macaulay, recently shared his personal journey of being a g@y man while married to a woman.

He revealed that he was g@y before marriage, remained g@y throughout his seven-year marriage, and continued to be g@y even after he came out publicly.

Macaulay explained that marrying a woman did not change his sexual orientation. Instead, it forced him to live in fear, constantly under pressure, and in silence.

He pointed out that for many men, marrying a woman isn’t always a free choice. Family expectations, religious beliefs, and cultural pressure often push them into heterosexual marriages.

Living a double life, he said, brought deep guilt — guilt towards himself for hiding his truth, guilt towards his wife for not loving her fully, and guilt towards society for not fitting their expectations.

Reverend Macaulay noted that his life began to change when he moved to a place where being queer was more accepted, allowing him to live openly and embrace his true self.

“Coming out after marriage was one of the hardest decisions of my life. It caused pain but also brought freedom. I didn’t choose to be g@y, but I chose to be honest, and that choice saved me,” he shared.

He emphasized that his experience is not unique. Many men around the world are pressured into marriages they do not choose, living in fear and cultural obligation.