A Lagos-based pastor, Kingsley Okonkwo, has given important advice to couples who have separated. He shared his thoughts on social media platform X, telling couples to focus on saving their marriage before they start fighting over who gets custody of their children. Okonkwo, who is well-known as a relationship and marriage counsellor, believes that couples should work on fixing their marriage first. He says this is the best way to truly show love and care for their kids.

If couples put their marriage first, it can create a better home environment for their children, even if they don’t stay together forever. The pastor encourages couples to think about healing their relationship before trying to win custody battles, which can be painful for everyone involved.

In his message, Kingsley Okonkwo reminds separated couples that fighting over custody shouldn’t come before trying to save the family. He believes that love for children is best shown by parents who try to stay connected and peaceful, rather than by fighting in court.

By following this advice, couples might find it easier to protect their children’s well-being and keep family bonds strong. The pastor’s words are a call for couples to put love and understanding first, rather than focusing on conflict.

Okonkwo wrote;

‘’Dear Mom and Dad if you love your children, fight for the marriage first…..don’t just fight to be the one that gets the children.”